A Woman’s Right To Live for Herself
It’s 2013 and many of us have been fooled into believing that inequality between men and women is largely a thing of the past, at least in the Western World. Sure woman can vote and, for the most part, succeed in their careers and even outearn their male counterparts. On the intellectual grain, women have proven themselves, but what about the sexual?
If a women sleeps with ‘many’ men, it’s not uncommon for her to be referred to as a ‘slut’. Yet when a man brags about his sexual escapades he’s high-fived and regarded as a ‘stud’ or a ‘player’. Both terms insinuating power and control over the situation.
I’m not advocating that women start to sleep with as many men as possible to stand for equality. I’m pointing out that a woman is referred to as a ‘whore’, and a man is referred to as a ‘champ’ because we still live in a society where sex is perceived as a conquer- where the man Takes what he wants From the woman; where she is used and he walks away with something of hers- her pride.
This sexual perception is left unchallenged. We fight for a woman’s right to walk around naked and shake her ass on camera, but it’s still done ultimately for the sexual pleasure of men. When will we fight for a woman’s right to enjoy her body and her sexuality simply because she is ALIVE?; and without it being for the enjoyment of men?
There is a time and place for the term ‘slut’ and up until now it’s been completely misused.
If a woman finds herself a sexual partner that caters to her needs as she caters to his, then it doesn’t matter if she’s had 5 or 50 lovers. She is a woman with her pride intact because she enjoys, both emotionally and physically, her sexual escapades. She leaves with something gained, just like the man.
On the other hand, when a woman is in a relationship with One man, but that one man rarely caters to her needs, and rather regularly cums only to go on with his life like there’s no business left unfinished, then her pride is slowly being chipped away at. When you’re a woman feeling used in the bedroom, that’s when you, yourself, will Feel like a ‘slut’.
When your fun, exciting, invigorating sex life is looked down upon by others, learn to not care what they think! Chances are your condemners are sexist men, or sexually oppressed women with no idea that things could, and ought to be better for them. Listen to those who HAVE what you want – a fabulous sex life whether exclusive or not.
Contrarily, if you’re a woman who regularly feels used, maybe it’s time you lift your own standards and start being more clear about what you want and need in the bedroom. A man can handle and even appreciate the truth and guidance. A boy will throw tantrums, get defensive, or shut you down. If he’s a boy, let him go and find yourself a vibrator, or a real man.